Comments on: Boyfriend Test http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test Fri, 30 Jul 2010 00:11:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Neil http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test#comment-1594 Neil Sun, 11 Jul 2010 16:03:52 +0000 http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test/#comment-1594 G'day from Australia Rachel, What ever happened to good, old fashioned Attraction? If it's not there, the relationship won't work long term, no matter how many boxes you tick. Can't say I disagree with the list thing, but I know some terrific relationships that have been thrown over because people are so busy ticking lists, they forget to get to know the person a bit first. Very often, the traits don't show until the potential partner feels attracted to you. By that, I don't mean initial visual attraction but attraction to the person. That's not going to happen while they see you ticking boxes. Due to my breadth of knowledge, I often choose to "Dumb down" allowing others to feel smart. Romanticism, Strictly reserved for when I not only feel it truly, but also see attraction coming my way too. Oh, how do I put my pic on here so people can see who's commenting. Never forget that us humans are really emotional thinkers that use instinct for survival skills. We're not logical thinkers. We use logic to reinforce our emotional decisions. Funny, because that means that you can run the list on the same person 2 days running and get very differing results based on nothing but how YOU feel on that day. I don't think relationships can work by formula but without doubt, we should strongly consider what we are prepared to give before we decide what we expect in return. I hope you find what makes you happy, whether or not it's what you're looking for. If ever you're in Australia, say hi. I think I'd like to talk through a few more of your ideas. I do travel around a bit but mostly near Melbourne. All the best Neil G’day from Australia Rachel,
What ever happened to good, old fashioned Attraction? If it’s not there, the relationship won’t work long term, no matter how many boxes you tick.

Can’t say I disagree with the list thing, but I know some terrific relationships that have been thrown over because people are so busy ticking lists, they forget to get to know the person a bit first.

Very often, the traits don’t show until the potential partner feels attracted to you. By that, I don’t mean initial visual attraction but attraction to the person. That’s not going to happen while they see you ticking boxes.

Due to my breadth of knowledge, I often choose to “Dumb down” allowing others to feel smart. Romanticism, Strictly reserved for when I not only feel it truly, but also see attraction coming my way too.

Oh, how do I put my pic on here so people can see who’s commenting.

Never forget that us humans are really emotional thinkers that use instinct for survival skills. We’re not logical thinkers. We use logic to reinforce our emotional decisions. Funny, because that means that you can run the list on the same person 2 days running and get very differing results based on nothing but how YOU feel on that day.

I don’t think relationships can work by formula but without doubt, we should strongly consider what we are prepared to give before we decide what we expect in return.

I hope you find what makes you happy, whether or not it’s what you’re looking for. If ever you’re in Australia, say hi. I think I’d like to talk through a few more of your ideas. I do travel around a bit but mostly near Melbourne.

All the best
Neil

]]> By: Logan http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test#comment-808 Logan Wed, 24 Feb 2010 21:30:38 +0000 http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test/#comment-808 Rachel, I loved this post when I first read it, love it now - just checked and it hasn't been added to SU....yet.. Thumbs up! Logan Rachel,

I loved this post when I first read it, love it now – just checked and it hasn’t been added to SU….yet..

Thumbs up!

Logan

]]> By: Alexei Vinidiktov http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test#comment-805 Alexei Vinidiktov Fri, 19 Feb 2010 09:53:28 +0000 http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test/#comment-805 I wish more women had lists like that! The ones who do, do know what they want, and that simplifies things a lot. I would definitely like to have a girl-friend like that. I wish more women had lists like that! The ones who do, do know what they want, and that simplifies things a lot. I would definitely like to have a girl-friend like that.

]]> By: Alexei Vinidiktov http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test#comment-804 Alexei Vinidiktov Fri, 19 Feb 2010 09:50:29 +0000 http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test/#comment-804 I don't understand why you think the list is unreasonable. There enough people like that. I don’t understand why you think the list is unreasonable. There enough people like that.

]]> By: Alexei Vinidiktov http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test#comment-803 Alexei Vinidiktov Fri, 19 Feb 2010 09:46:21 +0000 http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test/#comment-803 Someone with no job may have a business, don't you think? ;) Someone with no job may have a business, don’t you think? ;)

]]> By: Mike Humphreys http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test#comment-769 Mike Humphreys Tue, 15 Dec 2009 14:57:19 +0000 http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test/#comment-769 Hey Rachel, Nice idea. Many years ago, I made a similar list for my 'Ms. Right'. I recently came across that list and realized that my wife (a.k.a. the woman of my dreams) only met about 85-90% of my previous criteria. She had a similar scorecard for her version of 'Mr. Right'... and it turns out that I didn't get an 'A' on her score card initially either. LOL When you find the right one, you'll discover some of your 'must have' qualities become less important because everything else about your own Mr. Right will be everything you ever wanted and more. At least that's been my experience... I could be wrong. Take care, Mike Hey Rachel,

Nice idea. Many years ago, I made a similar list for my ‘Ms. Right’. I recently came across that list and realized that my wife (a.k.a. the woman of my dreams) only met about 85-90% of my previous criteria. She had a similar scorecard for her version of ‘Mr. Right’… and it turns out that I didn’t get an ‘A’ on her score card initially either. LOL

When you find the right one, you’ll discover some of your ‘must have’ qualities become less important because everything else about your own Mr. Right will be everything you ever wanted and more.

At least that’s been my experience… I could be wrong.

Take care,

Mike

]]> By: Sarah http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test#comment-754 Sarah Wed, 04 Nov 2009 10:54:32 +0000 http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test/#comment-754 Rachel you have very high standards - always a good thing ;-) Just wanted you to know that my husband of 14 years and father of my two children failed my (albeit unwritten) list miserably, the complete opposite of everything I thought I was looking for, yet he is perfect for me :-D !!! Rachel you have very high standards – always a good thing ;-)
Just wanted you to know that my husband of 14 years and father of my two children failed my (albeit unwritten) list miserably, the complete opposite of everything I thought I was looking for, yet he is perfect for me :-D
!!!

]]> By: Jake http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test#comment-698 Jake Sun, 03 May 2009 14:38:51 +0000 http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test/#comment-698 OMG list's sooo long... btw you've listed sooo many things but what have you got??? OMG list’s sooo long…
btw you’ve listed sooo many things but what have you got???

]]> By: nikita http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test#comment-696 nikita Wed, 29 Apr 2009 11:56:36 +0000 http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test/#comment-696 high hopes dude i bet its impossible to find someone like that if these are the qualities you are lookin dor....the i can assure you a lifetime of bachelorism(if thats a word) your lookin for someone totally perfect(and yaaaa rite!like guys can ever be perfect) high hopes dude
i bet its impossible to find someone like that
if these are the qualities you are lookin dor….the i can assure you a lifetime of bachelorism(if thats a word)
your lookin for someone totally perfect(and yaaaa rite!like guys can ever be perfect)

]]> By: Seannie http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test#comment-666 Seannie Tue, 27 Jan 2009 11:08:41 +0000 http://rachelrofe.com/boyfriend-test/#comment-666 gawd your the only woman i think i've ever admitted to saying i tick all your flaming boxes!! Blue eyes, caveman-ish, uber raw foodie, loves to work out, spiritual..india i'm coming!! i work for myself and get this im not limited by location, been there done it, made it lost it attitude not bothered or affected by money, wealth or lack of, could easily be anti establishment but shhhhhhhh, i wouldnt admit really to living in a hippy commune hahaha, amazing life story to tell....walked away from an 80mph head on car crash without a scratch!, anyway im bragging now. So your in Brazil, did you know there is an awesome place in guatemale for kabbalistic meditations etc and uber cheap? And it gets better i lurve brunettes hahaha, maybe the universe rachel has answered, im very divorced and 37. Let me know when your in Ireland next, Seannie gawd your the only woman i think i’ve ever admitted to saying i tick all your flaming boxes!!

Blue eyes, caveman-ish, uber raw foodie, loves to work out, spiritual..india i’m coming!! i work for myself and get this im not limited by location, been there done it, made it lost it attitude not bothered or affected by money, wealth or lack of, could easily be anti establishment but shhhhhhhh, i wouldnt admit really to living in a hippy commune hahaha, amazing life story to tell….walked away from an 80mph head on car crash without a scratch!, anyway im bragging now.

So your in Brazil, did you know there is an awesome place in guatemale for kabbalistic meditations etc and uber cheap? And it gets better i lurve brunettes hahaha, maybe the universe rachel has answered, im very divorced and 37.

Let me know when your in Ireland next, Seannie

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