Comments on: Boyfriend Test

By: Happily Married

Happily Married — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:41:46 +0000

Isn’t it a bit ironic how the people with the longest lists of “things I want in a man/woman” are almost always 1) adding/subtracting/playing around with that list (because THEY themselves grow over the years they remain single and decide that some things can go and others need adding)…..and 2) SINGLE. Oh, and only getting older and continuing to stay single… Always “looking” and thinking about all these grandiose things — and never walking down the aisle…. Oh, the irony.

**This coming from someone who had only a few standards when I met my husband — some of which I let drop when I met him — and who married her husband after knowing (not dating but actually meeting/knowing) him for 3 months ……………and who just celebrated 12 years of blissful marriage.

By: steev moreno

steev moreno — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 18:05:29 +0000

hey i just think ur too fucking picky if u can find a nice guy who treats u right and dosent cheat on u that should be enough
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By: Couch Surfing Ori

Couch Surfing Ori — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 20:40:42 +0000

Great list.
I’ve been working on a similar list after a recent attempt at a relationship, and wondering what went wrong. Glad you found your match for your list… gives me hope. I look at your list, and I definitely don’t think “Should make two lists” – I fit just about all of these. So, if your list found a match, there’s a chance that my list will find a match too

Thanks for sharing.
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By: Faizan

Faizan — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 05:16:43 +0000

Hmm,
Caring (I am very caring. I really care about my blackberry, my laptop and my little sweet car)
Eyes (Brown)
Confident (Very Very Confident)
Educated (Is this a 20th century joke?)
Funny (I am very funny. I can write 1000s of jokes daily Just joking.)
Healthy (I am not skinny and I am not going to discuss this matter anymore)
Intelligent, Honest
Love to travel (I love to travel if you can afford me:D Kidding)
Cheap (If the money comes between the relationship, you can say that the person is cheap. What do you say if the person is already rich? And don’t care about money and also, if the person is a freelancer and already making so much?)
Employment (I am self employed. I am a web developer, 3D Animator, and a Medical Transcriptionist. These are 3 different categories but not difficult for an intelligent person.)
That was a very well formed wish list. But I would leave rest of the list untouched. Too much to read
I know you are going to find the person of your imagination someday. No matter how long you have to wait. At least you will find someone before you touch the age of 65 years. I am sure
Although I am 100% fit in your wish list, I am too young to say that “I want a life partner”. I am 22 years old. I am still growing : D lolz
I didn’t want to reply for boyfriend test. I thought if you could make a list for some other tips. I know you are very good in making characteristics. That is why I have replied in your post.
Could you please make another list for youngsters? How can I be succeeded in my career?
Tips like how I can make a good relationship with clients:
Some sort of; Be formal when mailing to the client, be positive, be cool and bla bla bla.
Be Happy not only with love, but also with laughter. Thank You!

By: Neil

Neil — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 16:03:52 +0000

G’day from Australia Rachel,
What ever happened to good, old fashioned Attraction? If it’s not there, the relationship won’t work long term, no matter how many boxes you tick.

Can’t say I disagree with the list thing, but I know some terrific relationships that have been thrown over because people are so busy ticking lists, they forget to get to know the person a bit first.

Very often, the traits don’t show until the potential partner feels attracted to you. By that, I don’t mean initial visual attraction but attraction to the person. That’s not going to happen while they see you ticking boxes.

Due to my breadth of knowledge, I often choose to “Dumb down” allowing others to feel smart. Romanticism, Strictly reserved for when I not only feel it truly, but also see attraction coming my way too.

Oh, how do I put my pic on here so people can see who’s commenting.

Never forget that us humans are really emotional thinkers that use instinct for survival skills. We’re not logical thinkers. We use logic to reinforce our emotional decisions. Funny, because that means that you can run the list on the same person 2 days running and get very differing results based on nothing but how YOU feel on that day.

I don’t think relationships can work by formula but without doubt, we should strongly consider what we are prepared to give before we decide what we expect in return.

I hope you find what makes you happy, whether or not it’s what you’re looking for. If ever you’re in Australia, say hi. I think I’d like to talk through a few more of your ideas. I do travel around a bit but mostly near Melbourne.

All the best
Neil

By: Logan

Logan — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 21:30:38 +0000

Rachel,

I loved this post when I first read it, love it now – just checked and it hasn’t been added to SU….yet..

Thumbs up!

Logan

By: Alexei Vinidiktov

Alexei Vinidiktov — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 09:53:28 +0000

I wish more women had lists like that! The ones who do, do know what they want, and that simplifies things a lot. I would definitely like to have a girl-friend like that.

By: Alexei Vinidiktov

Alexei Vinidiktov — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 09:50:29 +0000

I don’t understand why you think the list is unreasonable. There enough people like that.

By: Alexei Vinidiktov

Alexei Vinidiktov — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 09:46:21 +0000

Someone with no job may have a business, don’t you think?