2’s are known as hysterical, helper, givers, and over-independent.
This is the “Jewish mother” type. They don’t want to be dependent on anyone but want to be liked and loved by everyone else. They feel the only way to be loved is to do things for other people.
They want freedom from obligation to others. They become wrathful if you don’t appreciate what they do.
They’re people-people and always have nice things to say about people. They’re caregivers and are all about meeting other’s needs.
Key Word(s):
Flattery.
What They Consider Ideal In Others And What They Consider A Major Offense:
Ideal – Helpfulness
Offense – Concern For Own Needs. This is awful to a 2 because taking care of yourself means you’re not taking care of others and you’re selfish.
Talking Style:
Flatters, advises, says nice things – usually not true.
Negative Emotion/Passions:
Pride – They take pride in looking after other people, sacrificing themselves, and believe they’re the ideal human being. They have a morbid need for appreciation.
Under Stress And Intimacy:
Goes to 4 under intimacy. They are creative and usually psychic in 4. They begin to explore feelings of worthiness, may go to fantasy world.
Goes to 8 under stress – biggest switch of the eneagram. They can become demanding, obtrusive, and frustrating.
How To Notice One:
They often smile when you notice them.
Doors Of Compensation (Can be used under your normal number, the one for stress, or the one for intimacy):
Psychosomatic illness – May become exhausted. They feel the only socially acceptable way to relax is to be sick, so they may turn to sickness for relief.
Level 1: Imagination of illness, hypochondriac.
Level 2: Creating a trauma
Level 3: Actual illness
Social Mode/Conservation Mode/Syntony Mode – How this type acts under each sub-type (each person has ONE sub-type):
Social: Ambition is the focus – they want to climb socially and in business. They aim to use relationships to climb ladders, and since relationships are easy for them, this works well.
Conservation: Me First – There’s a drive to be ahead of everyone and feel they need to look after themselves first. They think, “At the end, I’ll look after everyone else.”… and they focus on looking after others in order to get their needs met.
Syntony: Aggression – “Love is overcoming resistance.” These are the ultimate seduction artists of the world. A woman makes a man vulnerable so she can seduce him (or vice versa). They are very skilled seductors or seductresses.
Divine Ideas/Solution:
Divine Will – Experience the freedom of cosmic laws, not the approval of others. We get caught up in feeling the only way we can get love is through doing nice things. Look in and realize God loves you, accept His love and acceptance and you’ll realize the love and acceptance from others isn’t that important. You might end up wanting to do the same nice things, but it’ll be for a different reason and with no strings attached.
One-Word Mantra:
Security (Don’t need to please others, we’re lovable and secure as is)
Virtues (Use these to decrease or eliminate the negative emotions):
Humility – We take price in looking after people, but if we’re always doing it and never looking after our own needs, we need to experience humility. We have the same perfect essence as everyone else.
If we want to keep the 2, we need to support her when she’s looking after her own needs.
Balance with humility – all people are positive and negative. We don’t have to earn love – we deserve love. We are love-able and need to love ourselves.
Don’t do things for the affirmation – do it to just do it and not get something back.
How To Stroke Them & How To Poke Them
Stroke: Hug them warmly, tell them how much you appreciate them, encourage them to share.
Poke: Ignore them, accuse them of being unhelpful, rebuke them when they try to be nice.
2’s need affirmation to know they’re appreciated. What they most want to hear is “I’m really attracted to the nice things you do”, but beware that that can be bad. Show them you love them when they do things for themselves.
Business Applications – The Best Jobs For Them
Positives: Anything involving empathy – nursing, receptionist, any time people need to feel relaxed.
Not So Positives: Police offer, any job isolated from personal contact (they don’t want to type all day, wouldn’t be a good lighthouse keeper, etc), an auditor. Keep them away from precision or loneliness. 2’s are not self-resourceful or independent.
In Teams:
2’s are good team members and good supporters.
Examples Of Type:
Paul McCartney, Desmond Tutu, Salvation Army
