I’ve Been Emotionally Abusing The Internet?

The following post may seem “airy fairy” to you, but I think there’s a really important point in it so I’m going to make it anyway.

Before I get into it though, let’s get one thing out of the way. I’m pretty positive you feel energy to one degree or another. You might not say it in those words, but I’m sure you do. Have you ever seen a couple and known something was wrong even though they weren’t talking? Or maybe knew your significant other had a bad day before they said anything? Or maybe you just didn’t want to be around a certain someone because they gave you a “bad feeling”? Or looked at a picture and knew 2 people were in love even though you obviously couldn’t hear anything? Or maybe you’ve been happy just by being near someone (with or without them saying anything)?

I hope you’re remembering at least one example. ;)

OK, so with that out of the way, I’m going to tell you about a couple of cool things I learned about recently. I realize some of these things might be too “out there” for some of you, but I’m going to post anyway because for the people who DO know what I’m talking about, I think there’s a stellar message. :)

See, I recently learned some awesome lessons about energy on ALL levels (not just with living things).

One of my first experiences with this was at a psychic meetup group. This particular session was on psychometry, the act of holding things and then feeling the energy from them.

There were all types of people at this meetup group – teenagers, men, women, people of varying ages, etc.

We had each been asked to bring in 2-3 different objects and then we held onto each others’ stuff. We had 3-5 minutes of silence while holding each object and we’d use the time to write down all the feelings and thoughts we got from the objects.

Despite the differences of the people who came to the group, many of us kept getting the same feelings from the same objects. It was pretty fascinating. For example, some of us touched an accordion. We all felt a male energy owning the accordion, and all on our own instinctively knew that the guy who owned it was normally shy but was completely at home playing this accordion in front of lots of people. We saw he had inherited it somehow and that it meant the world to him. The accordion had a “proud” energy to it and we all really liked it.

There was a ring that we all felt lots of laughter and joy around. The ring felt so good to me that I didn’t want to put it down.

Another item we touched was a watch. I got such a stern and unwelcoming energy from it that I put it down immediately.

Although I already suspected it, this experience really made me understand that every physical thing has some kind of energy to it.

The group also made me think of when I was talking with Mona. She mentioned that she mentally “talks” to the stuff in her house, asking where it wants to be, what it wants, etc. I know it’s crazy, but it does work. Try it – if you’re open-minded enough you’ll almost always instinctively get answers.

After those experiences I was fully on board with the idea that both people and physical things have an energy to them. There was no need to convince me.

I had a coaching call the other day that made me realize that it goes beyond even that.

It all started when I got an email about one of my businesses. It looked like there was yet again another problem with it. As soon as I read about the email I instantly felt deflated, exhausted, and irritated. The business seemed to be awful to me from the start.

(Now that I have the gift of hindsight I realize the first time a problem ever came up I got irritated instead of looking at it as a fun challenge. I guess I’m used to things coming easy to me. As more problems accrued, instead of a little irritation, I became angry, resentful, and annoyed with it.)

In turn, the business wasn’t the best to me. Random problems I never even knew could exist would pop up. Opening my email up every day was like opening a Pandora’s Box into hell. I had no idea what new crap was going to show up.

I started talking to Steph, my friend/coach about all the problems with the business. She asked me to tell her everything I didn’t like about it, and I just went OFF. I kept going and going for several minutes without even stopping to think. The reasons I hated this business effortlessly oozed out of me.

Steph asked me what would happen if I were to love the site and use loving actions with it. As much as I respect her, the idea felt ridiculously farfetched. I couldn’t fathom even not hating it, much less using loving actions with it. I hated everything about it. Even the customers, which are normally my favorite part of any site I have, seemed to find endless ways to upset me.

Because I’m usually the most loving person you could meet, I felt the fact that this was taking such a toll on me seemed to speak volumes on IT. Obviously IT was the problem – it’s not like it’s in MY nature to get angry for no reason.

After I vented, Steph reminded me of something I never thought of. She mentioned that EVERYTHING has energy to it – even digital, and even if I created it.

She acknowledged I’d been pretty awful to the business. And really – what does anyone (or anything) do if you hate them? They hate you back!

It only makes sense.

Steph told me to “talk” to the business. She had me write a letter to it and tell it what I hated about it, what I loved about it, and what my goals were with it.

When I was done, she told me to have IT write a letter to ME – what it hated about me, loved about me, and what its goals were.

She told me I’d probably see that we both wanted the same outcome but were going about it differently.

Turns out she was right.

That exercise turned out to be really eye-opening for me. I’ve been much more nurturing with the business since then (not immediately getting annoyed at customers, not immediately going on the defensive if I read incorrect/uninformed reviews, etc.), and my happiness levels have definitely increased. I’m realizing the business is trying hard (and no longer punishing me), and when there are issues, I’m looking at them as “How can I help this?” versus “I loathe you!”.

Things had the potential to go a lot worse but now that I’ve done the exercise things are  seeming to “magically” work out right now.

And heck, even if it doesn’t yet feel comfortable to you to consider that digital (or physical) stuff has energy, look at in a different way. If you did the same exercise solely to put yourself in another perspective, I bet it would help a lot. Ignorance is often the cause of annoyance. Getting a better view on something has got to almost undoubtedly at least improve whatever you’re struggling with in life.

Anyway, I just wanted to make this post in case there’s some kind of situation frustrating you and this type of perspective could help.

I sure hope so. :)