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The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know…

My father used to have a bumper sticker in the garage that said, “The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know.”

This seems to be my life story – especially as of late. The more I grow, the more I realize I have SO MUCH MORE to learn.

It’s really hard for me to come to terms with this! I’ve always had the attitude that I’d like to work super-hard at first, get to desired solution, and then sit back. With growth though, it just doesn’t happen that way. It’s never-ending.

I met a guy I really, really respect back in June. He’s super-successful and full of amazing advice. I thought he was absolutely brilliant, wise, enlightened… and then I talked to his wife.

She was madly in love with him, which I expected… but she also told me some not-so-stellar things about him. Things that revealed a lack of confidence, insecurity, etc…

It left me feeling so unsettled!

I know nobody’s “perfect”, but it’s almost like… like, I’ll continue to do this growing… and there will never be a “stop” point. There will always be something I need to work through.

I mean, I could sit back and be happy with where I’ve come in a few short years – I used to tear up (even in casual, party-type situations) whenever I had to talk with two or more people at once. I felt so unworthy of attention. One-on-one I was awesome, but forget about more than that. I used to be ridiculously judgmental and used my book smarts as a shield to hide my insecurities. The list goes on and on…

But now that I’ve gotten past that, there’s whole new levels of things to go through – such as why I’m so picky, why I place my worth on some really foolish things, and so forth.

And I totally understand the benefits of continuing to grow – you raise your vibrations, you attract higher quality people, you can serve more people, etc…

But it’s still hard to come to terms with the fact that there’s no “end goal” (unless you count enlightenment).

I recently did an exercise with a good friend that I really trust. We’re both incredibly into development, so this was a super-fun exercise for both of us. We filled out categories about each other and then about ourselves. We promised each other that we’d be extremely vulnerable, and figured we’d have an average of 1-2 paragraphs for each section.

Here were the categories we used:

Business
Friend Relationships
Love Relationships
Self confidence
Goals in life
Direction
Self awareness
Emotional Life (how in touch with emotions you are)
Character
Spiritual Life
Quality Of Life
Top 5 Challenges
Top 5 Strengths

The exercise was unbelievable. My head’s still going into overdrive – both with the results he gave me (which were incredible, and it’s great to get someone else’s view – especially if that someone is empathetic and intelligent enough to not only see/feel things and put himself in my position, but to articulate them), but with what I ended up writing out about myself.

I realized that I have way more to get through than I ever thought, especially confidence-wise… but I also was given new focus, and understood a lot more. Coupled with some recent feedback I got from someone I met on a message board, and… wow.

The results are going to dramatically improve who I am, my relationships, and my business… which in turn will help me serve others more.

I highly recommend doing this exercise with someone you trust. I’ve read a million books, sites, etc… but very little (the only thing that comes to mind is Warrior Camp) has given me such concrete, power-packed information like this.

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5 comments on “The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know…

  1. Franklin on said:

    Hi Rachel!

    Just curious: what’s your ancestry? You look Latina/Mediterranean, yet I can’t seem to guess the origin of your surname!

    Cheers!

  2. Rachel some of what you felt, once you learned more from that marketers wife about him, I just felt reading this post for the first time.

    Actually whenever I see a picture of you I’m thinking…”this girl is THE calendar girl for IM!”

    I find you absolutely breathtakingly gorgeous and then I read your post above.

    You deserve a great deal of credit for breaking your silence and revealing a part of yourself that I’m sure nobody would ever know about you.

    This past year or so I’ve been dealing with some difficult internal circumstances and struggles.

    Unfortunately I’ve allowed myself to dive deeper in depression but after reading this post it’s helped me see once again that many other talented people and professionals are dealing with the same insecurities and feelings that I am.

    Thank you again for sharing this.

    Wishing you a very Merry Christmas and prosperous New Year!

    • James,

      First of all, thank you very much for what you just said. That’s really touching, and, for lack of a better word, humbling.

      One thing I really realized is that EVERYONE has something to work on. EVERYONE.

      (Well, unless they’re at the point of enlightenment.)

      Eben Pagan mentioned once in his Altitude DVDs something about some kind of insecurity he had, and it shocked me at the time… but the more I think about it, the more I realize that it’s basic human nature.

      Sure, some people are further ahead than others with their growth, but there will always be something new. That’s what makes life so awesome.

      I know there are people who say they’re done with growth, or they don’t have any to do… I used to be one of them… but I say they have the most growing of all to do. :)

      I really hope this new year gets better for you… remember you have to be in the darkness to really see the light. :)

      Have a fantastic Christmas yourself, and an amazing New Year. =)

      With love,
      Rachel

  3. i think that spiritual life is much more important compared to our earthly life.*`;

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