Demanding Happiness

Today I woke up and decided I was going to have an amazing day.

I’d get a lot of work done towards my upcoming launch.

I’d go to one of my favorite Starbucks’ and get my favorite spot in the back corner.

I’d totally ride this motivation wave I’ve been surfing the past couple days.

The day started off great. I woke up to great texts and a sweet message. I wrote my to-do list, knocked out my least favorite things in the morning (when I’m freshest), and was feeling really good.

Then I got a message from a partner on one of my products. We’re a few days away from a promotional opportunity that’d give us a pretty easy 4-5 figures of revenue and major brand recognition. He wrote to me and told me he was no longer feeling good about it because of a technicality I don’t agree with.

Literally within 10 minutes of that message, I got another message from someone else I partnered with on a product just over a year ago. At the time, I gave him one of my shopping cart passwords so he could check our sales stats.

Turns out last week he went into my account and closed down our product without asking me. I had traffic going to that page, not to mention the fact that he went into MY account without my permission. I found it to be pretty disrespectful.

Getting both of those messages so quickly together definitely gave me a flash of “WTF”.

But because I had the intention to have a great day, my mind literally just wouldn’t accept going into a downward spiral.

I shot a message to a friend and told him what was going on. I wasn’t even really venting, I just wanted to feel heard. In the message, I basically told him what happened and that I was going to keep on dominating anyway.

Then I did a quick assessment and reacted.

I told the first partner that he’s been great to me. If he didn’t want to do it, I wasn’t going to push him.

And I told the second guy he should’ve talked to me first. And promptly changed my password.

I could’ve definitely sulked about both of these things. On another day maybe I would have. But today, the intention was for Happy. So I decided I wouldn’t let it affect me.

And as soon as I made that decision, awesomeness just came pummeling upon me.

My friend Salina just texted me and said she wants to give me a sugar scrub when I come to California.

My friend Don just texted me out of nowhere with a corny joke (Did you hear about that restaurant on the moon? The food is good, but it has no atmosphere. hehehe!)

There’s a deaf guy at the Starbucks I come to sometimes. We always wave and smile at each other. Today we passed notes to each other on napkins. It was adorable.

I got really sweet messages from people I just emailed.

Someone awesome just told me he’s going to go to this conference. (Ooo! As I write this, someone else just said they might too!)

I made plans to hang out with a friend tomorrow.

I got inspiration for a blog post.

And most important, I’m just feeling really, really good.

I like this “demanding happiness” thing. It doesn’t negate other feelings (I still had my moment of WTF and expressed it), but the rabbit hole of negativity wasn’t available to go down.

I can see how setting this as my intention every day will create a lot more spectacular days than not-so-spectacular ones. :)